“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” – Max Planck
It’ll come as no surprise that I’m writing this post whilst tucked up in bed, my weekend playlist sounding and coffee in hand. Is it even a day off if you’re not still in bed at 10am?
I wanted to talk today about outlook. No, not the email server.. your perception.
While meditating this morning
, a thought popped into my mind and if you’ve been meditating for a while you’ll know what I mean when I say that some
thoughts are harder to accept and move on from than others. But not impossible- I should add. It wasn’t a desperate thought or a dangerous thought just an anxious one about something that had happened weeks and weeks ago. Instead of trying to analyse the thought and figure out why it was there; instead, I changed the way I looked at it. I looked at the thought without question and without judgement and just simply thought “it happened. let’s move on.” and then, I was able to put that one to bed.
Thoughts aren’t always solicited. Anyone who has ever struggled with intrusive thoughts and/or any form of anxiety will tell you this. Sometimes they come out of nowhere and trigger feelings about certain situations you didn’t even know where there. The key to working through this isn’t to stop the thoughts all together but accept them and do not dwell on them.
The thing you always have control over is your outlook. I know some times this can seem more difficult to digest than others but ultimately the power lies with you. Let your outlook influence the situation, not the other way ’round.
I’ve always considered myself to be an optimist, admittedly sometimes to a fault (I’m working on it) but I do strongly believe that my outlook on life has brought me more good than bad. Not because I’ve been in better situations because of it- oh no, but because of the way I chose to perceive those ‘bad days’.
“Just like a rubber band, you must be stretched to be effective.” – Unknown
Imagine, for a second, that we went through life never experiencing hardship. That we were never tested or challenged and we could do anything that we wanted. Someone once said that you don’t grow when you’re comfortable and it’s something that everyone should think about.
Look back on your hardships and ask yourself if there’s anything that you did differently because of that event. I am not insinuating that you should be thankful for said trauma but certainly be accepting of it and see that it actually acted as a springboard in pushing you to the place you are now. Remember, a rubber band can’t spring if it isn’t pulled back.
I can guarantee that there’s been a time in your life that you’ve thought to yourself “I can’t do this” and convinced yourself that you’re at rock bottom and yet, you got through it. I’m sure there was a time before and after that you thought the same thing, too. You are so much stronger than you give yourself credit for, I assure you.