3 Myths About Self Love – Debunked

Self-assurance is admirable but how do we learn to love ourselves without the ego trip?

A lot of ideas that come from the self-love movement are misconstrued and made to look like those of us who decide to make this so-called ‘lifestyle choice’ are egotistical airheads, which couldn’t be further from the truth. Let’s debunk some myths together shall we?

  1. It’s about being selfish

I hear something along these lines all the time and I can see why. Here on this blog we have a lot of “self-improvement”, “self-love”, “self-care”, “self-help” etc but what I can’t see is why this is viewed as a bad thing? If we were to never do anything for ourselves, we’d have nothing to give. Self-love, when practised correctly, positively feeds into your outlook, your relationships and your future. Learning to love yourself is one of the most difficult things but it isn’t selfish.

2. Self-love disallows change

“But if you fully accept yourself, why do you go to the gym? why do you eat healthy?” Just because you’re accepting of the way you are, does not mean that you’re not allowed to change things that you’d like to improve on. If it’s going to improve your wellbeing and it’s something that you want to do, isn’t that the essence of self-love?

3. You think relationships don’t matter

Although I agree with the idea (to a degree) that we need to be around others, there’s no doubt in my mind that we all benefit from a little ‘alone time’, this doesn’t make you a bad person and it doesn’t mean that you value time with loved ones any less. Your mind and body needs time to rest. Whilst you’re in touch with yourself, what you believe and what your goals are, you are more likely to surround yourself with the right people and therefore form closer bonds.

“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.” – Stacey Charter
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Anticallacy is a self improvement blog, focusing on Self Love and ethical living, with some poetry and musings thrown in for good measure. I hope you’re inspired today by some of my words.

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