Self-assurance is admirable but how do we learn to love ourselves without the ego trip?
A lot of ideas that come from the self-love movement are misconstrued and made to look like those of us who decide to make this so-called ‘lifestyle choice’ are egotistical airheads, which couldn’t be further from the truth. Let’s debunk some myths together shall we?
- It’s about being selfish
I hear something along these lines all the time and I can see why. Here on this blog we have a lot of “self-improvement”, “self-love”, “self-care”, “self-help” etc but what I can’t see is why this is viewed as a bad thing? If we were to never do anything for ourselves, we’d have nothing to give. Self-love, when practised correctly, positively feeds into your outlook, your relationships and your future. Learning to love yourself is one of the most difficult things but it isn’t selfish.
2. Self-love disallows change
“But if you fully accept yourself, why do you go to the gym? why do you eat healthy?” Just because you’re accepting of the way you are, does not mean that you’re not allowed to change things that you’d like to improve on. If it’s going to improve your wellbeing and it’s something that you want to do, isn’t that the essence of self-love?
3. You think relationships don’t matter
Although I agree with the idea (to a degree) that we need to be around others, there’s no doubt in my mind that we all benefit from a little ‘alone time’, this doesn’t make you a bad person and it doesn’t mean that you value time with loved ones any less. Your mind and body needs time to rest. Whilst you’re in touch with yourself, what you believe and what your goals are, you are more likely to surround yourself with the right people and therefore form closer bonds.